I was confronted with an interesting dilemma recently. The patient had recently got married to an older man who already had three children from his first wife. This was her first marriage and she wanted babies, but she was already 39. When she did a blood test, she found out she had ovarian failure and would need to use donor eggs. She was quite comfortable with the idea because she wanted a baby desperately, but her husband put his foot down and said he wasn't willing to consider using donor eggs under any circumstances because this was against his religious beliefs.
She was extremely unhappy and did her best to cajole him, but she wasn't able to persuade him. She came back to me after a year's time and said, "This is what I plan to do. I'm going to ask him to deposit and freeze his sperm sample in your lab. I'm then going to come to Mumbai without him, and tell him that you…
