Every medical couple knows that the lifestyle and career choice brings with it adjustments and sacrifices. Physician spouses and partners often take on more housework and childcare to accommodate long working hours. Physicians may work unusual hours that lead to late-night arrivals, missed bedtime tuck-ins, and less face-to-face time. This can lead many couples to blame medicine for their struggling relationship. Take the example of a resident who has been working long hours and has little time to spend with her .
When Dr. comes home late at night, wife starts listing the things that need to be done around the house, things that he always has to do because always working. The argument turns to her inaccessibility while she is at work. On and on they go, comparing how much time they each spend at their jobs, measuring exactly how much housework they each do, and explaining why they,…
